Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is a common, yet often overlooked tool that life coaches can use to help clients identify their desires.


Maslow’s pyramid is a helpful visual to use so clients understand need fulfillment.


However, I’ve noticed that often someone will want to jump ahead to needs that are more at the top of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs pyramid before handling their more basic needs. For example, she’ll want to work on needs of self-transcendence, but she’s still struggling to meet her security needs of a quiet, comfortable space. Or she’s looking to achieve deep self-actualization needs but she’s deeply struggling with love and belonging needs.


I think that Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is not a linear process of fulfillment, but instead a life long process of ebb and flow. Sometimes we think we are solid on love and belonging needs, but experience a set back that forces us to back away on more developed needs to handle more immediate needs.


Assessing self-fulfillment needs is an essential part of growth, and the lifelong pursuit of higher purpose.


To help you serve your clients more effectively with need fulfillment, I’ve created a set of questions that can guide you to understand where they are in the model, and if they need to take a few steps back to handle foundational needs before doing the work of self-transcendence.


Level 1: Psychological Needs
  1. How much water do you drink?
  2. What is your diet like?
  3. How much sleep do you get every night?
Level 2: Security Needs
  1. Is your home safe?
  2. Do you have quiet space?
  3. Is your home a place you like to be?
Level 3: Love and Belonging
  1. Describe a loving, nurturing relationship in your life? How do they support you?
  2. Where do you find your deepest sense of belonging?
  3. Who do you GIVE love and support to the most in your life?
Level 4: Esteem Skills/Honor/Recognition
  1. What have you achieved that you are proud of?
  2. What is something that you have worked for?
  3. Describe something you achieved that you were recognized for?
  4. Describe what you would like to be valued for?
Level 5: Self Actualization
  1. Describe what you think your highest potential is?
  2. What MUST you achieve in life to feel like you lived your life well?
Level 6: Self Transcendence
  1. Describe how you/your work might fit into the fabric of mankind?
  2. What is your legacy for the next generations?

Use these questions with your client to help determine which area of her fulfillment needs to tackle first.

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A coaches guide to practical magic.

I believe all processes hold magic.

I see magic in my clients, in the transformational results they experience from digging into the shadows of fear. I also see it in myself for being witness to such powerful change. I am humbled by the unexplainable magic in every synergistic situation.


Dynamic results come from blending modern magic with pragmatism.

As a daughter of science, I always look for the practical elements of every process. As a coach who channels the divine from my clients, I believe we need both magic and practicality to inspire powerful emotional alchemy.

As an artist, I know that magic serves a necessary purpose. Color evokes emotion, insight and inspiration. I see that magic is a tool that gives us deeper insights to the shadows of our psyche, and as a coach I now see practical magic as the modern tools of awakening to our soul’s desire.

6 Elements of Practical Magic

Intuition– Using your intuition and being a psychic are different things.
Definition of psychic: “sensitive to nonphysical or supernatural forces and influences :  marked by extraordinary or mysterious sensitivity, perception, or understanding.”
It’s pretty vague.

Intuition is the act of developing your relationship to receiving information through your senses, and learning to trust that information.

Everyone can learn to engage and trust their senses. We all know that when we talk ourselves out of trusting our sensory data we run into trouble. Sensory data is not vague. We experience the world through engaging our senses. Practicing sensation is another form of mindfulness, and coming into the present moment. Consciously engaging in the experience of our senses can magically transform every situation.


Sacred Symbols and Archetypes: Joseph Campbell’s hero’s journey is ground zero for understanding life stages and where we are in our own story. Actually Carl Jung is really ground zero, but Campbell made the whole thing understandable by corralling the common themes of myth and stories into one basic storyline. As a coach, I use Jungian archetypes as a frame for my clients to understand and to communicate their own stories.


Tarot: The ultimate in using symbols to reveal shadow material. I don’t see tarot as a means to understand how your life is going to play out. I use tarot as a way to reveal what is on your mind, to determine navigation possibilities for what you are going through, and what to focus on in the present. Tarot is such a rich resource for coaching, even after ten years of practicing I feel I have only scratched the surface of the potential for using it as a tool for transformation.


Alchemy: Of all awesome witchy things, I use alchemy the most in my coaching practice. Not literally, but figuratively. Alchemy is the act of turning base mental into gold. With coaching I help my clients examine the ingredients of their life, their talents, skills, interests and passions, and I bring mine to the table as well. Something wonderful emerges from taking the basic elements we each possess. Magic always emerges when two sets of talents converge. Something that couldn’t exist without the other. That kind of synergy is the purest form of magic there is.


Mandalasmandala is a spiritual and ritual symbol in Hinduism and Buddhism, representing the universe.
I’m not a Hindu nor a Buddhist, so there is a part of me that feels a little presumptuous for cherry picking from religions I don’t practice, however I am an aesthete and fully embrace the idea of impermanence. From a place of complete loving respect, I borrowed the practice of creating mandalas in my coaching for a few reasons.
  1. Creating something of beauty is an act of love, pleasure and gratitude to myself and hopefully others.
  2. The act of creating something impermanent is a wonderful reminder to be here now, fully accepting the life cycle and embracing change.
  3. I celebrate the notion of “so within so without” and the manifestation of this concept in a circle of flowers that symbolizes and reflects cultivating inner peace in a physical expression.
Journaling: Of all forms of magic, journaling is the most powerful. When you practice stream of consciousness flow writing you are supporting your self-exploration like nothing else. Here are some of the possible expressions of transformation through journaling:
  • Allows processing of difficult emotions.
  • Reveals hidden or taboo insights.
  • Establishes a practice that embraces and balances negative self talk.
  • Allows confusing thoughts or feelings a method of entanglement.
  • Increases feelings of positive self worth.
  • Promotes creative expression.
  • Allows the confusion of too many thoughts and ideas in your head to have a place to go, therefore making brain space for new thoughts and ideas.

Modern practical magic obviously borrows from so many deep traditions. There’s a reason these forms of magic have been around so long. Use them in your life or in your coaching and you’ll be amazed at the results!

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Let’s talk about female sexual empowerment?

If you would have told me a year ago that I would be hosting an online course about sex I would have thought you’d have eaten the crazy pills. But it all makes perfect sense now because I am teaming up with NY Times bestselling erotica author Eden Bradley.

It was during a kitchen table moment when we were talking about how mental sex is for most women, and how sex is one of those things that we tend to not really talk about. My life coach brain kicked in and let’s just say… I had some questions. I asked her what having a fulfilling sex life meant, and did she have one? Her insights about female sexuality and empowerment were so mind blowing and inspiring, that I knew we had to share it.

One thing that became clear as I started sharing about the course on social media, is that EVERYONE has an opinion about female sexuality. Especially women.

And guess what? There was a HUGE spectrum of our thoughts and feelings about female sexuality and our own individual sexuality. I was really surprised! And delighted.

There was an especially wide range of opinions on how female sexuality should be presented visually. Some women liked coquettish images, others found those same images insulting. Some women liked gritty images, others found them to be a bit dull.

My big takeaway? Just talking about female sexuality is empowering.

Talking with Eden was enlightening on so many levels. I had no idea there were so many different kinds of orgasm! Also, who knew toys were such a big deal? But really what fascinated me was that as women, we struggle to identify what turns us on, and how to ask for it.

Our goal with this course was to create a fun, safe and informative space for women to explore their thoughts about their own sexuality, gets some questions answered from a legit sex expert who has made understanding what turns women to an art form.

Click here to learn what’s in the course.

You can sign up to here to learn more about the course,  and when registration starts.

How do you know which of your passions will make up your territory and which ones to incorporate in your purposeful work? In other words, Which of your talents and skills should you use to become masterful at something you care about?

If you’re anything like me, you have agonized over sticking with one thing and developed lots of different skills based on your curiosities and interests.
There is so much joy in the unfolding of a new passion, and the journey of self discovery we experience through the lens of something we love, is such a wonderful way to learn about ourselves.
But in that discovery process, there is also on ongoing sense of frustration, because it can seem like you are constantly starting over, and your accruing skills often times don’t meet, or worse, they don’t build off each other to create momentum and mastery.

This can be devastating problem for multi passionate people because we risk squandering our purpose by watering it down with too many options.

I hope to provide you with a deeper understanding of how to know, as a multi passionate coach, which of your unique passions to nurture to find the right territory and to develop your area of mastery and expertise.
Multi passionates:
  • we love to learn
  • we have lots of ideas
  • we love beauty
  • we see inspiration everywhere
  • we’re easily distracted
  • often frozen with overwhelm
  • we aren’t great at implementation and follow through.
One thing I know about all multi passionate people is:

We see the possibility, beauty and potential in everything. 

It’s the best quality of multi passionate people, and also the most frustrating.
We tend not to follow through on the things we care about deeply, BUT we stay with the jobs, relationships and habits that don’t serve our higher purpose.
I created a special training for you if you are struggling to put your passion together in a way that makes sense.
I hope to provide you with a deeper understanding of how to know, as a multi passionate coach, which of your unique passions to nurture to find the right territory and to develop your area of mastery and expertise.
Check out my special training video:

If figuring out how all of your passion could come together to form one wonderful area of focus is your problem like it has always been mine, then I hope this video training give you a little clarity and helps you take action.

Life coaching and self help trends for 2017

Predictions for life coaching and self help trends in 2017.

Now that 2016 is a pile of ash, we are looking toward 2017 and wondering how to regroup, get inspired and deepen our relationship to ourselves so we can show up better in the world. The self-help and life coaching industries will continue to become a part of people’s everyday life because we’re finding that we don’t need to go it alone. As a result more people are turning to life coaches for support and life coaches are niching deeper into specific areas of expertise.
As a life coach, I’m constantly on the lookout for inspiration for serving and inspiring my clients.

I have noticed some significant trends in previous years, and this year I decided to share my trend predictions for 2017.

Healing through Creativity and Journaling-
Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way has been around for years, and for good reason. The motivation and structure that morning pages provide is a simple but powerful way to process emotion, get unstuck and honor yourself as a creative. It’s an unbeatable recipe for manifesting creativity into your life. Creative journaling will continue to trend during 2017. Coaches will continue to help their clients use this tool in a focused way by asking powerful questions as writing prompts. While bullet journaling and visual journals will still continue to be a popular way to add a creative outlet to organizing your to-do list, emotional processing through journaling will be a go-to tool for coaches and light workers.
The art of getting cozy, connecting deeply while wearing warm socks and feeling good by making everyday things special is going to explode in 2017. Coaches will support clients to create a nurturing environment that places the emphasis on slowing down and turning up the volume on appreciating the beauty of life.
The Heart of the Home- The Chip & Joanna Gaines Fixer Upper empire is taking the place of Marie Kondo’s Kon Mari Method the Art of Tidying Up. People will continue to eliminate the clutter, but now we are looking to add meaningful recycled pieces that create an atmosphere of tradition, texture and nurturing while  connecting with our families in spaces with warmth and heart. For life coaches this means creating products and programs that place an emphasis of renewal, connection through appreciation of tradition, and mindful beauty.
Empowerment of the Feminine Woman-
For some unexplainable reason, feminism as a concept got a negative connotation over time. Well, no longer. Women are embracing each other in all shapes, colors and forms. We can wear makeup, have long hair after 50 and basically do whatever the hell we want. But at the end of the day, we are still paid less than men, our health care costs more, and the topic of ‘having it all’ is on the chopping block. So while all this gets worked out over time, we as coaches are embracing feminine power in our work. We encourage our clients to follow their paths of meaning and purpose, while celebrating expressions of feminine beauty, and the art of being female.
Mandala Expression
Mandalas are nothing new, but the meaningfulness and self expression through mandala creativity is picking up where adult coloring books left off. For some, mandalas represent the wholeness of the self, psyche and persona. For others it’s a lovely way to drop into creative flow while assembling a floral mandala on the floor, and then Instagramming it. It reminds me of the art of Buddhist sand painting and the practice of non-attachment. As coaches we can encourage our clients to explore their own personal creative expression with the age old practice of crafting mandalas especially in any kind of media from flower petals to found objects.
Emotional Alchemy
People are more mindful than ever of their emotional landscapes. Instead of pushing away unwanted emotions, we are helping our clients allow their dark emotions to be a part of the present. The outcome is a rich emotional practice that alchemizes the light and dark feelings into a more layered emotional experience. 2017 will be the year of emotional fusion. The relentless pursuit of happiness will alchemize into the pursuit of meaning and proactivity.
Addiction support for Families.
It’s no secret that there is an opioid addiction epidemic happening. We are losing too many people to overdoses and the aftermath for loved ones who have lost someone to addiction is going to be staggering. Families who have lost a child, parent, or other family member to an addiction related death are going to need support. This is where a licensed therapist will be needed. But after therapy, there’s a stage in which people need the support of a coach that has skills centered around strategizing the next stage of healing with accountability and loving actions.
So there you have it. My 2017 trend predictions for life coaches, light workers and self helpers. This year promises to be an abundant year for wellness practices. Now more than ever we need you.